I’m blessed with the gift of gab and a big rack, endowments I don’t take for granted. Parties and socializing come naturally to me. But for some, working the room isn’t second nature. Rubbing shoulders with strangers is a mental workout. Before I head out, I ritually skim the headlines. My confidence stems from being a smokin’ hot piece of brain candy. The following are useful ways to navigate an evening out.
People who say “you had to be there” don’t know how to tell stories.
It’s good to have two or three go-to anecdotes in your arsenal. A good story has a beginning, middle, and most importantly, an end. Keep the plot moving and if the climax or punchline underwhelms, cut and run. Ask how everyone knows the host for an easy icebreaker. Be inclusive by making eye contact with others in your group, rather than just who you know.
I’m sorry. Did the middle of my sentence interrupt the beginning of yours?
I’m a Chatty Cathy, so I can’t wait to jump in and give my version of your story. I’m so busy being interesting, I don’t leave time for your answers. Conversation is a two-way street. If you catch someone’s blinking out an SOS, think W.A.I.T. (Why Am I Talking). Body language speak volumes, and right now it’s telling you to shut the hell up.
Being boring is a choice. Those mild salsas and pleated khakis don’t buy themselves.
I limit myself to one glass of personality before going out. Otherwise all my sentences start with “this one time at band camp.” Not all parties are created equal, so create an excuse to leave before you even arrive. When you’re the most happening person at the party, it’s time to hit the door. My motto is always leave while you’re having fun.
Unless you’re a pregnancy test, take your negativity elsewhere.
You can make a great impression by saying amazingly little. People love to talk about themselves (that should be obvious by now), and a captivated listener is my dream guest. Ensure your glass is always half full, and ask questions to uncover mutual interests. Keeping conversations flowing isn’t always easy, but with a positive attitude and a good pair of knockers, you can do anything…
Sangria Wine Rack
|Polly Positive||Debbie Downer|
|Too Much Information||I’m not wearing underwear.||I can’t get over this dry, hacking, unproductive cough.|
|Topics||How was your trip to India?||Did you get diarrhea from all the curries?|
|Engage||Group dance-off||I won’t dance...don’t ask me|
|Contact||Touching the arm, high fives, hugs||Cell phone surfing|
|Thought Provoking||It’s impossible to say ‘Good Eye Might’ without sounding Australian||Your brain starts to deteriorate at 27|
|Ask questions||If you ate pasta and antipasta during the same meal, would you still be hungry?||Does this look infected?|
Tunes you should have on your iPod:
Shawn Mendes ✿ Life Of The Party
Three Dog Night ✤ One (Is The Loneliest Number)
The Four Seasons ✸ December, 1963 (Oh, What A Night)
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