How Can I Miss You If You Won’t Go Away — A Grad Story

In my 20’s, kids were never on my radar. Babies terrified me, toddlers are a**holes, and moms of teens can vouch why animals eat their young.

But the universe saw fit to deliver two bouncing boys, and now I Mom. I Mom so freakin’ hard. Our baby just graduated high school, and like his brother, he’s chomping at the bit to get the hell outta dodge.

Mad Cow!

Our first kid had to go. It was him or me. But this one is resourceful, self-sufficient, painless. He wasn’t always easy. The preschool years were a blur of tantrums and head butts that made me question if he was right in the head. I vowed to break that high-spirited bronc before he broke me.

We’ve never met a mom who wasn’t working. By the age of 18, parents have invested 9.5 million minutes rearing a child. Graduation is a chance for them to find their own glory. Like a Netflix show, we get to watch the plot unfold on how we did preparing our kids for the world.

My 11 lb. – 12 oz. baby has acquired the sweet taste of freedom, and he’s hit the ground running. I pray it’s not with scissors. I’m gonna take a page from their independence playbook, and do the same. It’s hard to tell which of us is more excited!

In French, you don’t say I miss you. You say “tu me manques,” which means you’re missing from me. We’ve given our kids wings to fly and roots to come back. I’m grateful they’re able to experience university life away from home, but I’ll miss the tech support!

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  1. Jodi

    Beautifully said. Tom petty said it …. learning to fly. Congrats on the grad. Wonderful.

  2. Sandra

    Congrats to Nolan, he’s turned into a handsome young man.
    Wishing him great success and happiness with his first year away from home.
    These are exciting times for both him and you!!!

    • Sangria Sisters

      Congrats to Matthew and his acceptance to UBC! The first year Brennan was away left me empty, but the second year was gravy! Good thing you have a spare!

      • Sandra

        Thanks so much Val, I have a feeling Sept will be bitter sweet. Yes, thankfully we have a 16 year old to keep us on our toes!

  3. Laura

    Beautifully said, Congrats to Nolan! As I said to our Sam ‘you’re going somewhere … Bowden or university , your choice ‘ Onwards & Upwards to this 2017 graduating class

  4. Bonnie

    Love this ❤️ Congrats to Nolan! Such a handsome guy!

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